things that are lame

She.... is beautiful.

as always, said with eloquence and grace.

you amaze me, darling.

lurve.

Wow, she is just lovely.

(And AMEN regarding the post-breastfeeding boob deflation.)

she is so lovely......
You know, life is long and you are at such early days yet, with the single parent/divorce thing.
Yes, it does suck but the alternative is worse.
It will be so long ago, someday, that it will barely be a blip on the radar.
I wish I had known where I was going and how things would end up when I was at your stage and the six years of being on my own that followed. I would have appreciated the good parts more. If I have one regret, it is that I let my own crazies and preoccupations distract me from really being there-emotionally- with my kids a lot more than I wish. These years are SO SO short, although they seem long when you are in them. Try to savour the whole thing, the bitter and the sweet.
Your life will be COMPLETELY different in 20 years.

She is absolutely lovely! I hear you about the cheese/burgers and boob. The older I get, the more things break. :)

I have been following you for a while now through a link on mamalogues.com....I feel for you. I myself have been where you are in regards to divorce and being the "one that initiated it". My divorce was final 8 years ago...WOW, seems like an eternity. There were many days of despair and dread....the uncertain, I don't like it either. But "I wanted it", right?? Well, some of it - not all of the things that came with it. Try to look ahead to the future, plan some goals, dream a little. That is what got me through some hard times, rough days and nights. My life is so different now, the path is much brighter. My first husband was my first love, high school sweetheart - it wasn't meant to be...once we divorced we both met and fell in love with others. We have two wonderful, caring, sensitive sons - we did the right thing, the boys were able to see their parents happy and in a loving caring relationship. We didn't fuss or fight, we were like roommates, friends - we didn't possess the love and passion the boys needed to see...to see what a happy and healthy relationship should be like - so they would know what to expect as they get older. Looking back, it has been a struggle - but I don't regret the divorce, the cliche "everything happens for a reason" is one I believe. Our divorce enabled us to find other loves and be blissfully happy - I'm glad for that because my first love, high school sweetheart, father of my beautiful sons died very unexpectedly two years ago but I know he had found his soulmate and true love and was very happy - I am glad our sons were able to see him blissfully happy, that's the memory they have of him.
WOW - I didn't mean to leave a partial life story, it just spilled out of me.....what I'd like for you to remember - be as happy as you can, don't get lost in the bad days because there will be some - maybe many but it will get better. Your kids will grow and be happy. They are resilient and love you unconditionally all they need from you is love, time and your attention. You sound as you are making the most of your time with them....even when exhausted, they will remember the time you gave them over material things....! And by the way, your children are beautiful!