let it out

Toby has been having trouble. I should have known, actually i did know, that this would be very hard for him.

He is angry one day. Slamming doors and refusing to talk. The next day brought to tears by everything. Hiding under his school desk, holding his breath, red-faced, trying not to cry.

I have been feeling a little lost. My patience tried to it's very last thread. My heart torn apart by my little man who has pulled atthose same heart strings his whole life.

I spoke with his teacher, his principals, his dad. We all agreed that he was having trouble. At first i thought about counselling. It seems like a good idea, but a little pricey. Then i found out about a program in town called Rainbows for kids just like him. Kids from broken homes, kids who have lost a parent. All that lovely stuff. It's all about the kids. They sit around and talk. And apparently, and hopefully, it makes them feel better.

So, starting this thursday we will all be going to Rainbows together. Me and my four kids.

It seems a little awkward to be sending them into therapy, or group therapy, when i hate therapy myself. But, i will do anything to help my lovely and perfect boy.

Posted by Jess at 11:12 PM Permalink

Comments (8)

mizmouthy

I think this is wonderful.
Good for you and your kids :)

Posted by mizmouthy | January 16, 2008 05:06 AM

noe

I think it's gonna be a good thing for him that you all are going together as a family.
Hope everything work out ok for him.

Posted by noe | January 16, 2008 07:08 AM

jessica

Hugs for you and that amazing boy of yours. Same sort of family therapy starts with Tay tomorrow.

It will help. It will be hard, it will be excruciatingly hard. And you will do it, and it will be fine. And that amazing boy will be ok.

Posted by jessica | January 16, 2008 07:37 AM

ade

Good luck Jess! It sounds like a wonderful, helpful step for all of you.

Posted by ade | January 16, 2008 10:27 AM

Fifi

Hi Jess-my kids went to Rainbows.I never went into the room with them -as it is seen as the kids space and time to talk things out without fear of hurting you.It broke my heart seeing all these little kids trailing into a room with a big jolly woman and lighting their candles.Their little drawings. Their 'ME' scapbooks. this was a year ago-and the worst has passed-honest.Forget about 'private therapy'. It's another pressure you do not need. Rainbows was fantastic, because the one thing my kids took home was that their family is not odd, they are not alone in the sadness/anger. There was a big mix of family situations-all us mums swapped horror stories in the corridors..seperations(me), desertion,grandparents dying, mum having cancer and preparing her daughter-and one precious little 9 year old who apparently had Post Traumatic Stress from finding her hamster deadand with rigormortis!!jesus-You couldn't make this up!!!!
It will be fine-they will survive..take strength in the other parents. xx

Posted by Fifi | January 16, 2008 12:56 PM

Lauri

that's wonderful - show all of them that you are strong and willing to do whatever is necessary to make things better. Toby will love you more for it and the others will take his lead (and yours)
Sending good thoughts your way...

Posted by Lauri | January 16, 2008 07:45 PM

marian

That sounds like a wonderful idea for the kids—especially since they get to express themselves without worrying about hurting either you or their dad.

Posted by marian | January 17, 2008 06:37 AM

ellen

I think it's a really wonderful and brave thing you're doing- and what a gift that your kids will have each other. They'll probably hear more from each other than they'd hear otherwise- and that's the stuff they'll remember. Good for you for loving them so.

Posted by ellen | January 17, 2008 06:40 AM