breaking up is hard to do

Children tend to process things quickly. Wearing their hearts on there sleeve so to speak. My kids were instantly sad, angry, confused when they found out about the split in my marriage. Over the past five weeks they have continued to process and let me know exactly how they are feeling. Be it telling me directly or kicking me in the shin repeatedly.

I have been doing a lot of reaqding on children and divorce. I think, the key here being the "i think", that kids are resilient and can handle much more than we give them credit for. Including divorce. What they can't handle is when we, their parents, don't handle the situation well. How i talk about and process this divorce is key to my children processing it in a positive way.

It's okay for me to be sad or angry. It's okay for me to talk to them about it.

Retreating to bed. Angry outbursts. All the self-centred hokey-pokey that i may be inclined to do is not okay.

I think i am doing these things. The positive things. For me, the key to letting go and moving on, is helping my children to do the same.