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September 10, 2007

a kind gesture

Before we go any further i need to tell you. I need to tell you that any blame or fault should be placed on me. The failure of the marriage was my fault. Is my fault. I saw it coming and didn't try to stop it.

My husband is an excellent man. He has his faults. We all do. We just lost each other in the crazy shuffle.

I appreciate, very much, all the kind words and support. I am not here for pity. I never have been and , honestly, i don't want it. I want a place where i can talk about my life. It has been a struggle to maintain this site as that. As family and friends have begun to find it i have felt inwardly and outwardly judged. Feeling the need to hide some things.

I'm not going to do that anymore.

I am going to ask you that if you are related to me by blood or marriage i would like you not to read anymore.

The kids are doing well. Well as can be expected. We are living in a condo on the lake. It is beautiful and peaceful and fun. All the things they need right now to process their feelings and emotions.

Parker, toby and eliza are reacting in a purely emotive way. Mood swings and neediness. We are taking everything moment by moment and small conversations.

Tristan is having a harder time. More sad. Real understanding. She is sleeping with me and we are having long conversations, pillow to pillow.

It will take time, but i will make everything okay.


Posted by Jess at 08:06 PM Permalink

Comments (16)

Love and best wishes to you and your beautiful kiddos.

I'm sure it is hard on everyone. Love and communicate and while you can be strong for your children, I hope that you have someone there for you too. No one is perfect but everyone deserves happiness.

Lori

{{{JESS}}} I so remember when the kids dad left us and we found ourselves in such a similar place and time.......Kyle was 9, Cody 5, Jenna 16 months and I was pregnant with Shannon Jo....and our life at that time felt SO odd, so not our normal...and I worried about the kids...and what YOU describe with yours..well sweetie I LIVED... MY kids lived...and for us...well Kyle is 20, and a HOME owner, and car owner and I am so proud, Cody is a junior and finding his way...Jenna is a 7th grader and cross country runner and such a great young woman to be..and my baby, MY junebug...Shannon Jo...she is thriving and I am proud of my kids and know I made them what they are..along with the adversity they perhaps faced...think back to some of the posts to the June list.....We got through it all...and so whatever YOU and your kids face...WILL you....I am always here. I remember when Shannon and Tristan were pen pals....Shannon would love to start it again....let us know.....YOU are doing great....but we are so often OUR worst and harshest judges..... take time for YOU and your kids and what your future will be...

Love Lori....fellow june mom

It's ok to not make everything ok Jess....just keep on as you are. Small conversations....lots of love, and tons of patience. Things may begin to feel ok again soon. I hope so very much for all of you. Please please in all of your love and worry for the kids...do not forget about you. Enjoy the lake and the peace.

Biggest hugs as always

good to hear from you again. thinking about you lots.
xoxo

Nothing to say except you are in my thoughts. And keep talking and writing.

good for you jess. sounds like you are really helping these kids through the tough time. you are doing them such a great service. keep up the good mom-ing.

Jess, you sound strong and realistic. Remember to keep breathing. Lots of deep breaths. You will all be okay.

the mothering continues.
good job.

You are one strong woman.

TB

Sending peace and strength and the knowledge that the breakdown of a relationship is NEVER just the fault of one person. Be gentle with yourself.

Jess, What I'm even more concerned about than your separation, is your disease. Have you been to see the psych? Have you gotten meds? Are you still manic? Best wishes and peace...

Ach, Jess. I'm just catching up and so, so sorry to read this news. Heartbroken for all of you. Compassion, not pity. And I have the same concerns as Sheryl. I hope you can give yourself good care while you're going through such a rough time. Much love to you.

My chest is aching for you.
I see and feel strength in you - in the midst of your depression - in all of it. I felt peaceful with you ... and you can't feel peace where it isn't.

Hi Jess:
Just wanted to say, uh... hi. Hope you're doing well. Always remember: your readers are supportive, even if they can't always express it how they'd like to.

-Mike

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