hint of a spark

I feel like being cruel and telling him to read this, take note and shape the fuck up. But alas, marital folly is for you guys to work out. I have my own discord at home as well.

xo

I am the only one in my house who takes the OVERFLOWING (um... hint hint) trash bag out of the can and puts the full trashbags outside in the garbage can and then carries them all out to the curb once a week. I don't feel so alone now. I'll be thinking of you next trash day. :)

Ps. If you don't put a trash bag in the can right away, does he throw his trash in the EMPTY can instead of putting a new bag in for you? It happens here ALL the time. ARGH.

They were talking about a study on the radio here this morning that asked if given the chance would you marry the same person all over again? A mere 55% said yes. It didn't surprise me...and that made me sad.

My husband does all that shit (well, he does take out the trash) - but he recognizes that if you're contributing to the problem, you can't complain about it.

He's just not allowed to not like you with all that you do for his life.

I hear you loud and clear. Jeff is messy, but I've known this about him since before we started dating so I don't really expect him to change. It does get old to have to ask him to take out the overflowing garbage every time though. And at least he never complains that the house is a mess. If it were up to him, we would live in a pigsty :o)

Wow- your post really hit home for me. Enough to make me delurk. How do we get to the point where we honestly don't know if we like our spouses anymore? Between kids, careers, the house, etc, who has the time anymore for the sort of conversations that showed you how much you liked one another? Is this a sad place to be? Or a normal place to be?

Oh, I hear you loud and clear. It is so NOT you. Gag!!! The trimmings all over the sink. Rinse the fucker out when ur done, for petes sake!!

Gawd I hate to be all 'Typical Male' & shit but? Mine does all those things, too. His 'reason' for not filling the dishwasher is that I'm just going to re-arrange it all anyways so I may as well just do it all myself.

*grrrr*

At least he is good at taking out the garbage. Mostly because I try to fill it as full as possible (as in, less garbage bag waste, right?) and it grosses him out.

my god, if you hadn't mentioned the recycling part, I'd think you were talking about my husband! I do the trash though.

You are not alone... Same story here too.

I think Chris poses a good question - is it really normal that you don't have time for and don't really care to make time at this point? That is pretty much how I'm feeling right now! I find it sad, but what can you do?

I wonder about the not liking me shit, too. It just feels so insulting to be around someone who seems to blame me for so many things...like for being myself.

You know, I think we all lose our twinkle.. that spark that made us so.. CONNECTED. I mean, don't you think there are so many things we all just don't do, because we can? We all get worn and old, and sick of the never ending crap- but I think we know to press on- crap is everywhere. Whether you're young or middle-ged or really up there... New or worn- the crap is out there. We just need to ask ourselves- who gives the crap? And likely... it is us.

Mine ran the dishwasher tonight. That's his idea of "contributing." He's aware enough to realize he's just adding to the work I do around here, but not smart enough to do anything. It's a sore spot I try to ignore.

Oh, God. Not another post that makes me wonder why you're writing on my life. Geez. Have you been href="http://www.breedemandweep.com" rel="nofollow">over here lately? It sparked a bit of hurt for me just like you so often do.

I don't know if this is good news or disappointing, but my husband, who happens to really be a wife, is guilty of the same sort of stuff. I think it has more to do with roles and not necessarily gender.

This is so true. My husband isn't a messy person, he's too neat, and he picks apart the way I do my cleaning. So then when I don't do it, he can't figure out why!