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September 10, 2006

goodnight moon

On friday night i was laying in bed, not sleeping, thinking that it was time to stop being so damn self-absorbed. Begin writing about the important things again. Like kids.

Like how eliza started kindergarten with glee. How she has danced around the house all weekend, happy and excited. Planning what she's taking for sharing (show & tell) and what she's going to have her reading buddy teach her. How the school has embraced her allergies and made it a safer place for her than our own house.

How tristan has moved "upstairs" at the school. Into a grade 4,5,6 class. How she's the youngest one in it, but the quickest to solve all the math problems. How the year is full of promise and challenge for her.

How toby is in a class with all his bestest friends. How he runs out of the car every morning so excited to see and play and learn. How he has lost his voice from all the excitement.

How parker has strep throat. Poor parker.

Instead, after my doctor appointment on friday i came home with a very expensive prescription for 150mg. effexorXR.

I took the first one yesterday and then spent most of the day feeling like i was going to die. In bed. I made it downstairs for a few hours and then stumbled back up to bed for a restless, twitchy 12 hour sleep.

I woke up this morning still feeling like someone had taken the cuisinart to my brain, yet, feeling strange electric shocks here and there in my frontal lobes. I read some websites on effexor and how it is killing me.

What the hell am i doing to myself? How am i going to make it through this week.

Shane is worried and loving and sweet. I asked him last night to just hold me in his arms. He did, for hours. I am going to take a little break while i adjust and freak out. I am going to spare you from these intimate, self-absorbed posts.


Posted by Jess at 09:53 AM Permalink

Comments (16)

Hey, if it helps to get it all out of your head and post on here, go for it! I'm so sorry you are suffering so much adjusting to the meds. I really hope they help! I know I don't really know you, but please just know there are people here who do care what happens to you and want you to be okay. xx

Jess -- I commend you for writing through a really difficult time and I really think if writing is helping you feel better than you should continue, whether it's here on your blog or in a journal that nobody sees. Do what is best for you and your family but know, like the above commenter said, that there are people out there that care about you. Like me.

misscavendish

Dear Jess,

Please keep writing on your blog as much as you want or need to. Your readers are here to listen and to talk you through this new dosage of medicine, if you wish.

All best,

Kate

Hang in there. FYI, the electrical shock things are part of taking Effexor XR but for me they have gone away altogether unless I forget to take my meds and then I get them late in the day. I wish this was working better for you. I know meds aren't for everyone but I hope your doctor has spoken with you about how long it is before they really begin to make a difference (on average four or five weeks). I would be happy talk/e-mail my experiences with
Effexor XR if that would help. You are not the only one and you are not alone no matter what your brain is telling you. I enjoy reading about your children too, glad they got off to school okay.

Jen

I'm thinking about you. And I suck at commenting!

I'm sorry about the meds difficulties, but hopefully with a little bit of time (and rest), they'll get better.

Poor, wee, Parker. I hope he feels better soon.

It's great that all the kids are so happy at school, especially Eliza, since it's her first year. There's no better start than loving your first year.

Here's my assvice: Don't give up on the meds and don't stop until you get the right one for you. One of my good friends struggled with Zoloft for over a year and then got Effexor, which worked for them and their life is so different that it is like magic.

Remember: it isn't you and it isn't being self-absorbed. You deserve to have the time and place to talk about yourself, because it is YOUR life, not just your life as it relates to others (though that is obviously a big part of it).

You have fans. You have a cheerleading squad who is rooting for you. You can be whoever you want to be right here in your own little corner of the internet.

It's called therapy. Don't feel bad about it.

Oh Jess. I'm sorry to hear your having a hard time of it. Just got off my blogging break so I know what your going through.

I started taking meds to help even me out and things are starting to finally look up.

Hopefully they will for you too.

Email me if you want to chat.

I wish nothing but peace for your pain.

Kim

Jess, please know that we're thinking of you now and this is your safe place. We love you.

Jess, like the others have said, I hope you will keep writing if it helps you feel better and work through everything. But if taking a break is what YOU need, then do what works for you.

I'm glad that the kids are enjoying school and are in class with their friends. I've been struggling with how to comfort Tacy - many of her friends have moved up to kindergarten, so she's feeling lonely.

Thinking of you!

Goodnight star.
Goodnight air.

Goodnight noises everywhere.

(my favourite part of that book)

You hang in there-it's got to get better and you write about what ever you need to-this is your blog-it is about you. Hang in their please..The sun will shine again. Big ((HUGS)) to you and I glad your kids are doing so well- I know that always feels good.

Take care, momslo

Hang in there. I've never been on meds but man that sounds awful!! Great descriptive writing by the way. Thinking of you.

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