the husband, the guest

I cannot speak about breastfeeding (before/after), but my vote is for full access. Hey, Jess, if he's asking for full access then he's clearly quite happy with the girls.

Delurking to comment: Your husband is darling (I'm sure he's not perfect but hey who is -- and he seems really really adorable). I say give the poor desperate man what he wants. He obviously looooooooooves you past space, just the way you are (as he says -- hot!)post nursing breasts and all..........

i am with FlippyO, i vote pro-boobs at all times. tell him what you want and let him have at 'em!

I'm laughing too hard and thinking 'Get out of my husband's head' to have anything coherent to say.

I say to you, Shane and Jess, go slow - it'll all come back. Give them the attention they deserve and welcome them back to the game.

It took me a long time to trust that my husband actually meant it when he said he adored my saggy little post-nursing boobies. Now I believe him. Trusting what he said really helped me.

Jess, you have to do what you're comfortable with, but if you're self-conscious about your boobies, you're probably just not seeing them through his eyes, in which they are perfect.

But if it's something else that's hanging you up, give yourself some time. It's a big transition after so many years of nursing. You don't need to feel pressured into anything or to add any additional stress to your life.

Like Chantal, I'm laughing really hard and wondering if maybe, somehow, my husband wrote this?

Okay Jess. While I was pregnant both times and when I was nursing my kiddos my boobs were absolutely, positively off limits. He couldn't even look at them. Since I've had Oliver I've noticed, however, that they're quite um...sensitive now...and that helps in stimulation quite a bit. So...go slow. Let the girls come back to life. 'Cause I think they will.

I'm taking the cowards way out, and refusing to comment if you should whip your titties out for his (and yours) enjoyment. Which ever direction you decide to go, whether you decide to let the girls loose and run wild (so to speak) or bind the bitches permanently so they can't poke their little heads out to see the light, I wish you both well. Thanks for the giggles and may you both have an **enjoyable** week. (I'm not talking to you or Shane, I'm speaking to your girls now!)

oh, that cracked me up! whew! ha!

i think you should listen to this man who is head over heels in love with you. he thinks you're beautiful (hot!), and you believe him, so what have you got to lose?

I for one support (no pun) free access.

I'm also heartened to know of men who have survived the famine. Phew.

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL.
my husband could have written this post. I must admit understand him better now :)

I'm with Rain. EXCEPT--my boobs just don't really want anyone messing with them after all the nursing, etc. It is a bit uncomfortable. They're not off-limits, they are just used for special occasions :)

yay for full access!

I say send the kids to a friend's for a couple days, buy three cheap bottles of red wine, and play, play play...

Heel boy, heel. I say let Jess have them for herself for a short time until she is ready to share. Maybe she needs time to adjust her feelings on them going from purpose to pleasure and needs to reclaim them as hers before she shares. I mean, they haven't been hers for 8+ years and I'm guessing Shane can wait a little bit longer until she is ready.

My thinking? It's all about tit (literally) for tat.

Give her back the alcohol.
You can have the boobies.

See? Now everyone is happy (and drunk!)

I am also going to be non-committal but thank you for indirectly reaffirming my vow to never let my husband guest-blog. His post would probably be along the same lines. I will never be as brave as you, Jess (or for that matter you, Shane). Good night and good luck!

I find myself oddly turned on after reading this :)

AND, my recently weaned boobs have just recently been unleashed since being in total hiding for 20 months...

So, take it slow - and love them long time.

I'm with you!!!!

we're three kids later and I gotta have it all:)

I think that sometimes my wife thinks it aint all good enough, but she's gotta realize that if it works for me, its good enough!!!

All else fails, go with the booze from previous comment. I know that my alcohol budget is way up ;)

I love you Jess....and I love your blog! And I don't have anything against Shane! But am I the only one who thinks this was a bit disrespectful and Pig-ish? I found myself wrinkling my nose and raising my eyebrow. That's my "ick" face. I'm married with two boys under 4, so I can relate to the whole breastfeeding-breasts thing.

I laughed, then sent the article to my wife. She said it was inappropriate for me to read blogs that discussed 'having 4 children', but she was okay with the boob comments :)

Well, I don't really have any problems with this post. I think it's a real issue based on real life experiences.

I love your blog, Jess! There is so much of it that I sit here lmao about, and nodding in agreement at the same time.

I totally understand that when you compare pre-nursing perky full boobs with post nursing flat saggin' down to the belly button boobs that the whole concept of sex with out a bra becomes extremely scarey.

I gues I'm just glad that my hubby still finds me sexy 10 years and 3 kids later. Nice to hear that he's not the only amazing man out there.

Hope you find something that you're comfortable with.

OMG I just laughed my ass off by reading that!! I know we've been there too but not for no 8 years!!! HOLY COW!

Hmmm. Well, my husband didn't mind getting lactated on. That was part of the thrill. I probably can't give advice here. It's really Jess' call. Maybe her reluctance had to do with her knowledge of your feelings about lactating breasts. Just a thought.

found this site while looking up stuff on my sons near drowning. good site but maybe change of name appropriate? lol x